1957 vs 2007
Reply #48 –
That's an interestingly defensive way to not disagree with me as I said it was "common" for people to deny it's existence. I didn't say that all people who have doubts about some of the manipulators didn't believe that some people are indeed ADHD. OTOH, many people in my life express similar sentiments to the "beat the child 'till they conform" mentality expressed by even some in this post.
That's a good synopsis. I honor what your wife does as I also couldn't imagine how my aunt (who passed recently) could deal with the special needs children she taught day after day. These kids were profoundly handicapped and had little hope for any self-reliant future. Just thinking about the seeming futility of what these teachers nobly do day after day is admirable to me. I couldn't do it. Some people do take advantage of the system, and some parents can't deal with the fact that someone in their family may be less than "perfect" - my mother-in-law for instance. I think that all of these situations are normal and to be expected in any society where we expect all of our children to be perfect. We no longer have 4 - 8 children so families are not so likely to just write off a kid by saying "oh, (s)he is just the black sheep of the family". This was how you would have heard them describe my father in the 1950's. In fact, according to my father, the 50's were a time when people were uptight and generally conformists. Women knew their place. Blacks knew their place. Hispanics knew thier place. Gays knew their place. People were discouraged from "standing out". A conservatives paradise - white males ruled the roost and nobody questioned anything. I would say that it was a time where people wanted stability in their lives after the incredible upheaval of WWII. This "optimism" clearly could not last and hoping for such an unsustainable "burying of one's head in the sand" is to not believe in the greatness of the USA and our ability to remain great despite the shifting sands beneath our feet. You couldn't pay me enough to go back in time - I do not believe in the "grass is always greener" horse. We are here and now and we're only as good as we think we are. I tend to have a positive outlook - even after 7 years of having an impulsive reactionary in the White House that has indeed made other countries seem like a better alternative. It's not true. We will find greatness again in spite of the setbacks.