Dating Is Like Prostitution, Only You Don't Get What You Paid For

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Dating Is Like Prostitution, Only You Don't Get What You Paid For

December 08, 2010, 03:02:38 PM

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Dating Is Like Prostitution, Only You Don't Get What You Paid For

Reply #1 – December 08, 2010, 04:10:58 PM

I never had to pay for a date. If you have that kind of opinion,and you're over 30, maybe it's you, and not the girl your dating. If you go into a date with high expectations, you're only setting yourself up for disappointment. You really need to elaborate on why you feel that way. You kind of left it wide open.

Dating Is Like Prostitution, Only You Don't Get What You Paid For

Reply #2 – December 08, 2010, 04:15:36 PM

I don't date and I have no use for a prostitute , I'm too busy as a single dad for either one .

Dating Is Like Prostitution, Only You Don't Get What You Paid For

Reply #3 – December 08, 2010, 04:27:02 PM

I've been a single parent. I know what you mean. I have Gayle now,and have for 18 years. Would NOT trade her. In the end,my dad taught me, it's not having what you want....it's wanting what you have.

Dating Is Like Prostitution, Only You Don't Get What You Paid For

Reply #4 – December 08, 2010, 04:29:47 PM

Quote from: vinnietbird;344979

You really need to elaborate on why you feel that way. You kind of left it wide open.

I don't feel that way. I just heard somebody say something along those lines, so I thought I'd throw it out there. See what makes my fellow Cougarbird owners tick.

Now, when I was younger, I got played like a fiddle, I'll tell ya. Maybe that's why, huh?

Now, there was one time, Eric & Jorge even warned me, "Scott, it's probably best not to dip the pen in company ink," when I was talking to them about a girl I worked with that I was dating. Well, to make a long story short ...

We'd gone out twice, then her early-90's Buick Century got totaled. Well, I knew a lawyer that hooked me up with some good shiznit to mail to the other driver's insurance, so I did that. Well, she got back 3 times what the insurance company was going to give her. As soon as that check came, so was the girl.

Then, after a bit, I found my wife ...I reckon things work out for the best :)

Dating Is Like Prostitution, Only You Don't Get What You Paid For

Reply #5 – December 08, 2010, 04:43:46 PM

Sometimes you get exactly what you pay for.

Dating Is Like Prostitution, Only You Don't Get What You Paid For

Reply #6 – December 08, 2010, 05:12:18 PM

i've had so much trouble with finding a good girl i've decided it just aint worth it anymore. I gave 1 girl 3 yrs and she got preggo by another guy and left and took the ring with her, everysince then i've had nothing but trouble so i just said F it ya know lol

Dating Is Like Prostitution, Only You Don't Get What You Paid For

Reply #7 – December 08, 2010, 05:45:09 PM

There are a LOT of factors. Just because a couple of girls are bad doesn't mean they all are,and you can't judge one by what another did. Also,I'm a firm believer that MOST of the time you shouldn't be at bars or places like that to to find someone (you can meet THE one anywhere,there are always exceptions). These days too many people never really KNOW the person they are with. They want "right now".and then end up disappointed when it turns bad in the future. I'm not built to be single. Just the plain truth. I like being married,and have no desire for anyone but her. he takes great care of me. We started out just talking...no dating,no nothing. We got closer and closer and then we just "happened". I never wanted to grow old and be alone. I see that a lot where I work. Not for me. I was very lucky to be able to marry the one I really want to be with. I didn't have to "settle" for what I could get. She's more than everything I ever wanted from a woman. We've had our differences,arguments,etc,but in the end,we still love each other and wouldn't be anywhere else. Often these days....more often than not, people get in an argument, see things differently, and break up,or divorce. There's not much staying power anymore. People have no coping skills and patience to work things out. It's a give and take. You have to accept each other as different people with different likes and dislikes, different opinions and feelings. The grass is not always greener on the other side,and there's NO way I'm going to risk everything I have for a few minutes with someone else. i have everything right here.

Dating Is Like Prostitution, Only You Don't Get What You Paid For

Reply #8 – December 09, 2010, 02:00:24 AM

I'll open up a little about my experiences.

I've had several girlfriends, and as some here may know, just got married for the second (and the last) time.

I've learned that:
The grass may be greener on the other side, but it doesn't last long.
Keep your pickle in one jar.
Karma, no matter who you f*ck, karma will always be there to f*ck you right back.

With that said, the first marriage I had was a bloody disaster. We always fought, usually it was physical, I have some scars, mental and otherwise from her. I lost a lot of money and sanity and sleep over her, but ya know, I think I'm a better person, I stuck it out 5 years, hoping she'd grow up a little and see what she had, but in the end, in April/May 2006, I stepped away from the addictions, the selfish people in my life, and her. I had my doubts, and those lonely summer nights of 2006 when I literally had no one to talk to was probably the worst time of my life. I had a relapse in November of '06, I won't go into that, but thankfully by then I had a close friend here keeping track of me, and when I got too far out, she was there to reel me back. Then, January of '08 I met Nicole, found a job, and then in March, she came to my work with a pregnancy test...

Well, that was almost 3 years ago, I've also got a daughter now. Nicole is my wife, my friend, my soul mate.

And to think I was about to give up, and say "shag it all."...
I'm very thankful that I didn't pull the trigger that night, in November, when I was cold, and all alone.

Women.
The right one is out there somewhere. Sitting around, feeling sorry, and kicking yourself in your testicles won't bring her to your door. Get off your ass and go get her, lol.

Oh, now that I've bared my soul (somewhat) I'm gonna go hide for awhile, don't tear the place up too much while I'm gone.
(don't worry, just gonna spend a lot of daytime (aside from work) cutting wood and outdoor farm stuff. nothing self-destructive. that shiznit is in the past.

Merry Christmas to all, regardless of faith.

Dating Is Like Prostitution, Only You Don't Get What You Paid For

Reply #9 – December 09, 2010, 10:30:18 PM

well i got more than i bargined for. And looking back on the past few weeks i should of done this sooner. but now that it has happened my worst fears came tue. my wife basically took everything i owned becides my clothes tools and the thunderbird. Even though the thunderbird got vandalized by her younger bro. So now im sitting at my moms in the throws of a bitter devorce. And facing a life where i was almost to the top of a mountan and now i look at that same mountan from the bottom. And looking at the long hike ahead. Thats why ive been kinda absent from here. But im back and stronger than ever. And im surrounded by my family and friends. And i know some day ill be on top again.

Dating Is Like Prostitution, Only You Don't Get What You Paid For

Reply #10 – December 10, 2010, 08:21:40 AM

Quote from: Cougar8775;345168

well i got more than i bargined for. And looking back on the past few weeks i should of done this sooner. but now that it has happened my worst fears came tue. my wife basically took everything i owned becides my clothes tools and the thunderbird. Even though the thunderbird got vandalized by her younger bro. So now im sitting at my moms in the throws of a bitter devorce. And facing a life where i was almost to the top of a mountan and now i look at that same mountan from the bottom. And looking at the long hike ahead. Thats why ive been kinda absent from here. But im back and stronger than ever. And im surrounded by my family and friends. And i know some day ill be on top again.

Be strong bro. You aren't alone. Im going through it too right now. Back in August I came home from a business trip to find my wife gone and a 4 page letter stuck to the fridge. I felt like i'd never be human again, very hollow, and living a pointless existence. If you're work offers counseling, take it. If they don't. Go find some. You'll have good days and bad days but as time passes, the good outweighs the bad. Like you, im thankful I have good friends who are helping me through this really tough time in my life. Friends both in my day to day life and online.

Dating Is Like Prostitution, Only You Don't Get What You Paid For

Reply #11 – December 10, 2010, 05:46:07 PM

Scott, as far as your topic goes, I suppose one could say he was buyshagual. Meaning you BUY your shag:rollin:

As for me, I've only had 2 real girlfriends, once in high school, and one after, the latter is currently Mrs. sarjxxx:D

We "dated" for a while back in high school and realized neither one of us really wanted a relationship but we stayed friends for years and right after my girl left me a few years later, I called her the next day to tell her about it, only to find that hers had left her too 3 days earlier. So we started hanging out again. Eventually one thing turned into another, then another...and so on. And now we've been together for almost 4 years, and will be our first anny in March.

She's the best and yeah we fight (literally) and yell and scream but there are always more good times than bad, and the good is really great. And to be honest, I really hope I never have to hit the dating scene again, cause I AM NOT good at it, and I would probably end up like your title;)

Dating Is Like Prostitution, Only You Don't Get What You Paid For

Reply #12 – December 12, 2010, 08:06:57 AM

I will start out by saying I have been married for 29yrs and we have been together for over 32yrs. Neither one of us is the same person we were so many yrs ago. We have grown up together, both the good and the bad. We have had many good times and bad ones too, at one point it looked like we weren't going to make it. I see the biggest problem with relationships is people don't know who they are and most don't have the strength and incite to look at themselves and say "I'm an asshole or I'm acting like an asshole" then to go about fixing it. So we enter into a relationship with someone just as screwed up as we are and wonder why it doesn't work out and it has to be the other ones fault.
We need to know who we are as people, then the really hard part is trying to find someone who knows who they are too. Then you can start building a relationship, and still it will not be perfect and you will still argue but remember to do it respectfully. Just remember we only have so much time to make our mark, do it right, be kind to others and embrace the simple things in life. I have learned and still learning to appreciate even the simplest things in life, a sunrise or a rainy day, our 2 great kids (kids haha 25 & 22) my beautiful wife, a house and food in the kitchen. I could go on and on but I hope this helps even if it's just one .

Dating Is Like Prostitution, Only You Don't Get What You Paid For

Reply #13 – December 12, 2010, 12:18:38 PM

As with alot of you I've been through the ringer as well. I've entered my third marrage in july of this year. Sharrie is the absolute best woman I've ever been with. This is her third marrage as well so she knew what she wanted as well and lucky for me it was me. We found each other in the yahoopersonals and we clicked right away. Even my family loves her, which is something I've never had before. My parents are very good at reading a person for example, the day of my first wedding my Dad pulled me to the side and told it it's not too late to back out that we could still have one hell of a party. I wish I would have listened, but I was 21 and very neive. As it turned out my first wife had been cheating on me from the begining and I was blind to it. That woman was pure evel! I could fill out page after page of things she's done. A couple years after being divorced I got my girlfriend pregnant and got married again. I was nuts about her but she didn't feel the same for me, so she was miserable which over time made me feel the same. She ended up being very hatefull which she still is. After that divorce and a couple years I did date a very nice woman but we just weren't right for each other. I ended up living alone for I think 15 years, 7 of which I didn't date. I had my daughter every weekend and just put time in with her. I was still very lonely and thought I'd never find anyone again. There were times I was pretty depressed but I have a great family and alot of friends who love me and have stuck with me through it all. Even though I don't go to church like I should, I have my faith, I'm Catholic and have my beliefs which have also helped me get through the bad times. I'm so glad I did too! I've never been happier! I never thought I'd find my soul mate, I didn't think she even existed, but I found her and also my best friend in Sharrie.

So don't give up guys it will get better. It may take a while and some trial and error but it will get better. I'm proof of it.

Dating Is Like Prostitution, Only You Don't Get What You Paid For

Reply #14 – December 18, 2010, 11:03:35 AM

Quote from: vinnietbird;344995

There are a LOT of factors. Just because a couple of girls are bad doesn't mean they all are,and you can't judge one by what another did. Also,I'm a firm believer that MOST of the time you shouldn't be at bars or places like that to to find someone (you can meet THE one anywhere,there are always exceptions). These days too many people never really KNOW the person they are with. They want "right now".and then end up disappointed when it turns bad in the future. I'm not built to be single. Just the plain truth. I like being married,and have no desire for anyone but her. he takes great care of me. We started out just talking...no dating,no nothing. We got closer and closer and then we just "happened". I never wanted to grow old and be alone. I see that a lot where I work. Not for me. I was very lucky to be able to marry the one I really want to be with. I didn't have to "settle" for what I could get. She's more than everything I ever wanted from a woman. We've had our differences,arguments,etc,but in the end,we still love each other and wouldn't be anywhere else. Often these days....more often than not, people get in an argument, see things differently, and break up,or divorce. There's not much staying power anymore. People have no coping skills and patience to work things out. It's a give and take. You have to accept each other as different people with different likes and dislikes, different opinions and feelings. The grass is not always greener on the other side,and there's NO way I'm going to risk everything I have for a few minutes with someone else. i have everything right here.

you know at first i didn't really believe any of that, well that was until last night. I met the most amazing girl last night and something just clicked between us. Today were goin on a 1st date im nervous lol but unlike any other girl's something just feels right about her.

Let yall know how it went later tonight :hick: