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November 10, 2013, 12:00:23 AM

This past Thursday November 7th my cousin called me to let me know that my uncle passed away. I'm sitting in a hotel room in west Memphis Arkansas going to finish the drive to Jacksonville in the morning. All day long while driving I listen to my dad and uncle and aunt all talk about the past . These things are simply just heard then forgotten most of the time. Today though I can't help but wonder how things seem different because I've heard most of the stories before but never really listen to them. It's sad that most of us get so wrapped up in things like who can make this car faster blah blah blah... I've gotten caught up in it not on here but with coworkers and friends, then next thing you know there is a big fight. My dad hasn't talked to his brother in over 20 years and even though he doesn't let it show I watched him cry while smoking outside the hotel tonight. My dad is 71 and I think my uncle was in his late 80's . There was 12 kids in all know there is only 8, with 4 of them in poor Health as well. These 2 men that I have been listening to don't show much emotion like most men of there generation. I hate not being able to comfort either one of them, you just can't they won't let you. My dad has always been my rock , teaching me all I know weather it be by guidance or by letting me fall down but showing me how to get back up. These qualities are very hard to come by anymore . I'm sorry for venting on here about this but I was just reading some to pass the time and needed to get this out. Thank you all

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Reply #1 – November 10, 2013, 02:52:29 AM

I remember in 2007 when my grandfather passed, my dad was so silent, never let on any emotion.

Some folks are like that, they've just grown accustomed to not letting out how they feel.
Nothing wrong with showing it though, hey, we're all human and feel the same things.

Cars and guns and money will come and it will go, but once someone is gone, there will never be a chance to say what you always held back.
I remember all the fun times, the funny stories, and the lessons that didn't make sense until much later that I heard and learned from my grandparents. Now I've got kids of my own, and I'm grateful my dad is playing that role for them. He was always gone a lot when i was little, and it made us not so close, but things are a lot better between us now. I've written a few destructive things and people out of my life lately, the kids are the focus of everything now. People with their negative, "all about me" stuff just serve as a daily reminder that you can take away everything, and I'll be ok as long as I got my wife and kids. Without them I have no purpose.

I'm sorry to hear of your loss, may the sun shine on your family and the load of despair be light. Blessed Be.

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Reply #2 – November 10, 2013, 11:48:42 AM

The older generations have many qualities I admire. I wish I was half the man my dad was. I know sometimes its like trying to communicate with someone from a different culture or someone who spoke a different language. I believe just being there for them is the greatest gesture. Sorry for your family's loss.

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Reply #3 – November 10, 2013, 12:03:13 PM

I'm sorry to hear about your loss and extend my family's condolences.

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Reply #4 – November 11, 2013, 09:52:23 AM

Thank you all for the thoughts. Today we put my uncle junior to rest he is a 22 year veteran of the Air Force . He retired a staff Sargent and lived just outside the base he loved .