Re: who's more complicated?
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THE GOOD WIFE'S GUIDE
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[From Housekeeping Monthly 13 May 1955]
Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a
delicious meal ready, on time for his return. This is a way of
letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are
concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home,
and the prospect of a good meal (especially his favourite dish) is
part of the warm welcome needed.
Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed
when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair
and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary
people. Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him.
His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide
it.
Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part
of the house just before your husband arrives. Gather up schoolbooks,
toys, paper, etc., and then run a dustcloth over the tables. Over the
cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for
him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of
rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering
for his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.
Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands
and faces (if they are small), comb their hair, and if necessary, change
their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them
playing the part.
Minimise all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise
of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be
quiet.
Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in
your desire to please him.
Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but
the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first - remem-
ber, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.
Make the evening his. Never complain if he comes home late or goes
out to dinner, or other places of entertainment without you. Instead,
try to understand his world of strain and pressure, and his very real
need to be at home and relax.
Your goal: Try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order and
tranquillity where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.
Don't greet him with complaints and problems.
Don't complain if he's late home for dinner or even if he stays out
all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone
through that day.
Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or
have him lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for
him. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a
low, soothing and pleasant voice.
Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgement or
integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will
always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no
right to question him. A good wife always knows her place.
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