Advice

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Advice

January 20, 2005, 09:35:12 PM

i would like words of advice because i am overly stressed out and i know it but what puts it over the edge is when the boyfriend can't see you for the weekend like you have been doing for the past month, and you don't see him during the week. all you can do is talk to him online and when you do he doesn't say much and that frustrates me because it makes me feel left out and not wanted. And with a little brother who bugs the hell out of me i use getting away with him as a relaction time. but now more added stress is that my little sister is home for the weekend and add on my little brother and not seeing him for over a week. i want to cry because i am so frustrated and have no idea what to do. some one help me

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Reply #1 – January 20, 2005, 10:35:52 PM

Lostbrew, some words of advice:

1) Guys are not talkative by nature. I do not know any guy who likes to talk on the phone, instant message, or whatever. This is not an indication that your guy does not care about you, it is an indication of the very tiny attention span that comes from being a male. Your guy is very likely surfing a dozen different websites while chatting with you.

2) Brothers and sisters are not allowed to get along. By law. They tolerate each other, borrow money from each other, do each other favours, and all that, but only because their parents make them like each other. The younger they are, the more this holds true. My sister and I are both in our thirties, and on the surface we get along, but underneath we both carry a deep grudge against each other that is programmed into siblings. Don't let it bother you.

I don't know, maybe it is just my nature (or the aforementioned short attention span), but I refuse to let anything bother me. The sun will still set at the end of the day, and the following morning it will rise again, sure as there's shiznit in a cat. If you find yourself buckling under stress, do something you enjoy. Go see a movie with the girls. Do a burnout in front of a bunch of ricers. Gap your spark plugs. Anything that keeps you occupied will keep your mind off your problems.

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Reply #2 – January 20, 2005, 11:07:34 PM

Quote from: Thunder Chicken

Lostbrew, some words of advice:

1) Guys are not talkative by nature. I do not know any guy who likes to talk on the phone, instant message, or whatever. This is not an indication that your guy does not care about you, it is an indication of the very tiny attention span that comes from being a male. Your guy is very likely surfing a dozen different websites while chatting with you.

2) Brothers and sisters are not allowed to get along. By law. They tolerate each other, borrow money from each other, do each other favours, and all that, but only because their parents make them like each other. The younger they are, the more this holds true. My sister and I are both in our thirties, and on the surface we get along, but underneath we both carry a deep grudge against each other that is programmed into siblings. Don't let it bother you.

I don't know, maybe it is just my nature (or the aforementioned short attention span), but I refuse to let anything bother me. The sun will still set at the end of the day, and the following morning it will rise again, sure as there's shiznit in a cat. If you find yourself buckling under stress, do something you enjoy. Go see a movie with the girls. Do a burnout in front of a bunch of ricers. Gap your spark plugs. Anything that keeps you occupied will keep your mind off your problems.

Thunderchicken thanks for the advice.

1. we realy don't talk on the phone all we do is talk online, and when he had a job when we first started dating he would talk non stop now i can not get him to talk more than 20 min. He pretty much talks to me and that is about it besides looking at these boards. so not much. i am doing more than him and i always find time to talk to him. and i always start the convercation. and always start the shag.

2. Well of course i am a female but my little brother is 7 and he just wants attention after my father died he realy doesn't have anyone that will look and sit down and teach him the right ways. i try but tham everyone reverses them. and my sister is a more deep rooted problem and like you said there are always problems but there is something different because i am not doing anything else for my sister because she has gotten away with everything under the sun blamed everything on me and torn the family apart. i give to my mom money when she needed it and other thing but she has not. not gas money not paying for dinner somenights nothing. i guess it bothers me because i see her getting away with all this and i am the only one standing up to her not her boyfriend not my mom not my mom's best friend who has done just as much as my mom has for her. she even threatoned to call the cops on her. i guess my family is just ****ed up and i can't deal with it.

well my nature it to get away from it but i have no car at the moment, and no way to get away. and me trying to do something to relax i can't i do art but i have to be left alone inorder to do it and i can't be with 2 dogs a little brother and a bitchy sister and a mom looking to bitch at someone. i try and read can't do that for the same reasons. all my girlfriends left when i graduated high school. and with no job no income can't realy do something that is going to cost me espically with me in college now need the money for books and supplies. i normaly bike to get my mind of things becauase when i am out in the open i can talk to myself and work out my problems but with all this snow i can't do that let alone go outside with out my finger freezing. i would love to get a job writing advice colums for people with problems because i am good at that but i don't look at my own life until i blow up. guess i need to find a job writing advice columns or a webpage that people can go to and ask for advice.

Thank you Thunderchicken

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Reply #3 – January 20, 2005, 11:09:21 PM

whatever i do someone is always looking over my shoulder or wanting me to do something so it is not like i can get away from it. to many people in the house so my bed is out in the middle of the room so i can't even go to my room to be alone

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Reply #4 – January 20, 2005, 11:25:38 PM

and a way for me to relax is sleep sleep it all away and not have to deal with it all but than i get bitched at for sleeping to much.

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Reply #5 – January 21, 2005, 12:19:04 AM

you need to just bundle up in some clothes and take a walk, my only real release right now is dance games, and my car, and both get me out of the house

just take a walk, come in late when everyone is in bed, and enjoy the peace

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Reply #6 – January 21, 2005, 04:22:44 PM

Quote from: Thunder Chicken

Lostbrew, some words of advice:

1) Guys are not talkative by nature. I do not know any guy who likes to talk on the phone, instant message, or whatever. This is not an indication that your guy does not care about you, it is an indication of the very tiny attention span that comes from being a male. Your guy is very likely surfing a dozen different websites while chatting with you.

2) Brothers and sisters are not allowed to get along. By law. They tolerate each other, borrow money from each other, do each other favours, and all that, but only because their parents make them like each other. The younger they are, the more this holds true. My sister and I are both in our thirties, and on the surface we get along, but underneath we both carry a deep grudge against each other that is programmed into siblings. Don't let it bother you.

I don't know, maybe it is just my nature (or the aforementioned short attention span), but I refuse to let anything bother me. The sun will still set at the end of the day, and the following morning it will rise again, sure as there's shiznit in a cat. If you find yourself buckling under stress, do something you enjoy. Go see a movie with the girls. Do a burnout in front of a bunch of ricers. Gap your spark plugs. Anything that keeps you occupied will keep your mind off your problems.

WOW! :)

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Reply #7 – January 21, 2005, 05:35:59 PM

Quote from: Tbird232ci

you need to just bundle up in some clothes and take a walk, my only real release right now is dance games, and my car, and both get me out of the house

just take a walk, come in late when everyone is in bed, and enjoy the peace

i can't realy just bundle up cus' if i was to go for a walk i would go and keep going untill i get so frost bit that i can't move. and i realy don't have the supplies to bundle up. i try and relax when everyone is sleepin' but my mom has my brother turn off the internet to my computer at 11:30 and with school and all i try and go to bed early and i try to sleep and do what i can't. i seem better after i sleep and no one brings it back up it is like my memory eraser. another reason why i try to sleep a lot when i am nervious.

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Reply #8 – January 21, 2005, 05:57:58 PM

look, this shiznit irritates me, you ask for advice, then say how it wont work, or how youre different, or how bad life is, i broke up with a girl over stupid shiznit like that, if youre going to ask for advice, and shoot everythign down, dont bother asking, because you know you wont listen

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Reply #9 – January 21, 2005, 06:08:46 PM

hey there is no need to attack her here she was just pointing out what goes on at her place. and how she comes here to relax. and i value it when she is here. but there is no reason to go on the attack.

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Reply #10 – January 21, 2005, 06:12:14 PM

isnt that cute?

look, its one thing to rant about what goes on, i do it, you do it, we all do it, but when you ask advice, someone gives you advice, and all you do is give excuses and ramble on about how youre life is so horrible and advice wont work....why bother asking? why even bring it to the board if all you do is give excuses when someone gives input

i like having her here, i like having people here, but i get irritated when someone wont listen

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Reply #11 – January 21, 2005, 06:28:12 PM

yeah but there is no reason to piss whine or whatever over it. but she gets that way when she is frustrated pissed or whatever. cuz im the same way. and when she is pissed i get that way cuz she is and when i try to calm her down or calm my self down we butt heads. guess thats the gemini trait poping up yet again. o well. shiznit happens.

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Reply #12 – January 21, 2005, 06:47:32 PM

Quote from: Tbird232ci

look, this shiznit irritates me, you ask for advice, then say how it wont work, or how youre different, or how bad life is, i broke up with a girl over stupid shiznit like that, if youre going to ask for advice, and shoot everythign down, dont bother asking, because you know you wont listen

it irritates me when people like you say shiznit like this i deal with it every time i say something on this board if you don't like the thread don't post on it, it is as simple as that. i am not shotting everything down i am taking it into concideration and not everyone on this board is fortunate enough to have shiznit to get away to and relax. i have to ****ing listaned and like i said before if you don't like the thread don't post on it.

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Reply #13 – January 21, 2005, 06:51:56 PM

ok lady and gents.. take deep breaths.. sing spoogebaya ... say "whoooosaaahh" and think "is arguing on this thread really worth it.. am i really doing something productive and useful to society by running my mouth off here?"

Then ride a unicorn to your happy place..

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Reply #14 – January 21, 2005, 06:53:24 PM

bla bla bla bla bla

you rant on saying if i dont like the thread, dont post and yadda yadda, but if you dont like the advice, why give 50 excuses why it wont work?

like before, you put something in a public forum, dont expect everyone to hold hands and rejoice over everything you post, there will be some opposition, there will be an asshole such as myself who will call you on things, and there weill be some problems, it the interent, its public, expect it

if you deal with it every time you post, maybe thing about the things you post