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I think I'm losing...

Reply #15 –
Do you mean a reconciliation? If so, I wish you two the best and hope that things get straightened out (counselor would be a good idea). Whatever direction it's going, if it makes you happier, then I wish you the best of everything.
'88 Sport--T-5,MGW shifter,Trick Flow R intake,Ed Curtis cam,Trick Flow heads,Scorpion rockers,75mm Accufab t-body,3G,mini starter,Taurus fan,BBK long tube headers,O/R H-Pipe, Flowamaster Super 44's, deep and deeper Cobra R wheels, Mass Air and 24's,8.8 with 3.73's,140 mph speedo,Mach 1 chin spoiler,SN-95 springs,CHE control arms,aluminum drive shaft and a lot more..

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Reply #16 –
did not happen.talking to her is like trying to talk to a recording on repeat. she hears nothing but tells only what she wants to tell.

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Reply #17 –
Talk to the courts first, at least you can get a temporary order set so you can see your kids. My experiance has been, if you don't she will. Dospoogeent everytime she has refused to let you see them, and go from there. Its a hard road, and keep your head up.

Sorry, I can't really tell you what to do, but I would get the ball rolling.
Quote from: jcassity
I honestly dont think you could exceed the cost of a new car buy installing new *stock* parts everywhere in your coug our tbird. Its just plain impossible. You could revamp the entire drivetrain/engine/suspenstion and still come out ahead.
Hooligans! 
1988 Crown Vic wagon. 120K California car. Wifes grocery getter. (junked)
1987 Ford Thunderbird LX. 5.0. s.o., sn-95 t-5 and an f-150 clutch. Driven daily and going strong.
1986 cougar.
lilsammywasapunkrocker@yahoo.com

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Reply #18 –
it's always worse when kids are involved.. i can't speak from experience but i have friends with kids that have gone through simular situations.. i would definitely contact the court to set up a temporary custody hearing.. if you're the primary bread winner of the household, there's a possibility (just don't hold me to it) that you will get full temporary costudy, since you're still in the 'home.' it will also look good on your end if you file asap, it'll show the court you're a loving/caring father to your girls
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R.I.P. 'Zump' 8/29/86 - 11/11/11
3- 87 TC's / 1 really mean 83 Capri RS / 94 Sonoma SAS Project on 37x12.50 TSL Radials / 88 S10 that's LITERALLY cut to pieces / 84 F150 SAS, 351M, 39.5 TSL's / 85 Toyota regular cab, 22R 5spd, 3/4" drop, my little junkyard save/daily driver

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Reply #19 –
Yes, get the legal folks involved last week. If they don't return calls, call them back. make it happen before you end up in a bad way.
'88 Sport--T-5,MGW shifter,Trick Flow R intake,Ed Curtis cam,Trick Flow heads,Scorpion rockers,75mm Accufab t-body,3G,mini starter,Taurus fan,BBK long tube headers,O/R H-Pipe, Flowamaster Super 44's, deep and deeper Cobra R wheels, Mass Air and 24's,8.8 with 3.73's,140 mph speedo,Mach 1 chin spoiler,SN-95 springs,CHE control arms,aluminum drive shaft and a lot more..

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Reply #20 –
Don't lose your temper, rise above anything she does. Be as straight as you can be, stay away from ANYTHING and ANYONE questionable. There are eyes everywhere no matter what people think. Make every move as though someone is watching. Tomorrow, pick up the phone and get legal people in it and protect yourself and kids.
'88 Sport--T-5,MGW shifter,Trick Flow R intake,Ed Curtis cam,Trick Flow heads,Scorpion rockers,75mm Accufab t-body,3G,mini starter,Taurus fan,BBK long tube headers,O/R H-Pipe, Flowamaster Super 44's, deep and deeper Cobra R wheels, Mass Air and 24's,8.8 with 3.73's,140 mph speedo,Mach 1 chin spoiler,SN-95 springs,CHE control arms,aluminum drive shaft and a lot more..

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Reply #21 –
it wouldn't hurt to invest in a punching bag to take your emotions out on.. i'm not into health/fitness, but throwing some punches into a punching bag will relieve a lot of stress.. i'd say go to a shooting range, but that may find it's way to the judges ear and make it look like you're about to go postal
ShadowMSC.com < < Still Under Construction

R.I.P. 'Zump' 8/29/86 - 11/11/11
3- 87 TC's / 1 really mean 83 Capri RS / 94 Sonoma SAS Project on 37x12.50 TSL Radials / 88 S10 that's LITERALLY cut to pieces / 84 F150 SAS, 351M, 39.5 TSL's / 85 Toyota regular cab, 22R 5spd, 3/4" drop, my little junkyard save/daily driver

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Reply #22 –
well things took a turn...    she came to get some things and some "other things" happened :D

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Reply #23 –
soooo.. this meeeaaaaannnnnnsssss? lol
ShadowMSC.com < < Still Under Construction

R.I.P. 'Zump' 8/29/86 - 11/11/11
3- 87 TC's / 1 really mean 83 Capri RS / 94 Sonoma SAS Project on 37x12.50 TSL Radials / 88 S10 that's LITERALLY cut to pieces / 84 F150 SAS, 351M, 39.5 TSL's / 85 Toyota regular cab, 22R 5spd, 3/4" drop, my little junkyard save/daily driver

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Reply #24 –
Good luck, but don't put yourself in the situation you get burned again. I wish you the best.
Quote from: jcassity
I honestly dont think you could exceed the cost of a new car buy installing new *stock* parts everywhere in your coug our tbird. Its just plain impossible. You could revamp the entire drivetrain/engine/suspenstion and still come out ahead.
Hooligans! 
1988 Crown Vic wagon. 120K California car. Wifes grocery getter. (junked)
1987 Ford Thunderbird LX. 5.0. s.o., sn-95 t-5 and an f-150 clutch. Driven daily and going strong.
1986 cougar.
lilsammywasapunkrocker@yahoo.com

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Reply #25 –
I think "That" is common in these situations, but physical "emotions" still don't fix the other things that are going on. I also wish you luck, and hope you're not setting yourself up for a big fall. You said yourself that you two can't even talk without it becoming a mess. I'm afraid you'll fall right back into the same old stuff. Either way, good luck with this in whatever direction it goes.
'88 Sport--T-5,MGW shifter,Trick Flow R intake,Ed Curtis cam,Trick Flow heads,Scorpion rockers,75mm Accufab t-body,3G,mini starter,Taurus fan,BBK long tube headers,O/R H-Pipe, Flowamaster Super 44's, deep and deeper Cobra R wheels, Mass Air and 24's,8.8 with 3.73's,140 mph speedo,Mach 1 chin spoiler,SN-95 springs,CHE control arms,aluminum drive shaft and a lot more..

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Reply #26 –
Always remember.....The simplest term for insanity.....Is repeating one self and expecting a different results.

In order for any good to come from this situation....you have to forgive her.  If not it will damage and pollute everything else....it will just take time.

Good luck,

Travis

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Reply #27 –
Also remember that anything you post, both here and on Facebook, is there for her (or her lawyer) to see. Hurt though you may be, if you want any shot at reconciliation don't say things that you'll be begging her forgiveness for...
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1988 5.0 Thunderbird :birdsmily: SOLD SEPT 11 2010: TC front clip/hood ♣ Body & paint completed Oct 2007 ♣ 3.55 TC rear end and front brakes ♣ TC interior ♣ CHE rear control arms (adjustable lowers) ♣ 2001 Bullitt springs ♣ Energy suspension poly busings ♣ Kenne Brown subframe connectors ♣ CWE engine mounts ♣ Thundercat sequential turn signals ♣ Explorer overhead console (temp/compass display) ♣ 2.25" off-road dual exhaust ♣ T-5 transmission swap completed Jan 2009 ♣
 

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Reply #28 –
I'd avoid any contact with her unless it directly pertains the girls....don't keep putting your heart out there to get trampled on. I know it's so hard not to, but don't become her doormat just because she crooks her finger. Of course, I'm totally unforgiving in such an instance, kids or not.

I've kinda stayed neutral in it, and I'm not biased to either of you....it's just one of those things where you have to pick your way thru it and realize that no matter what she does, those little girls are YOURS too.

Let her go if she really wants, if she gets in a bad way, it's on her.
Meanwhile, your life is empty and  your wasting time....the love of your life is out there somewhere...go get her! :)

"My dad always told me, before he left this shiznitty world, there's 2 things you shouldn't chase. Buses and women. You'll always get left behind."
'98 Explorer 5.0
'20 Malibu (I know, Chevy, but, 35MPG. Let's go brandon, eh)